A widely held false belief is that love is and forever will be unconditional. I, myself, have had a personal experience where this form of “unconditional” love for a gentlemen physically, spiritually and emotionally crushed me. My unconditional love towards him worked against me despite coming from a place of realness and sincerity.
The more I overlooked the problems, drama, differences in personality, class and upbringing that we both had, the worse the relationship got.Having that gentlemen in my life was such an unproductive, hot mess. This whole notion,that women, particularly black women must “ride” or “die” in the name of love is toxicity personified. No one individual is worth humiliating oneself and self-sacrificing for.
People often point the finger at women and say you should have chose better and that is true in many cases. What is also true is that men shouldn’t try to ensnare women into a web of lies and deceit.Also if you don’t measure up as a man(willing to protect, provide and cherish your loved one) getting into a romantic relationship is not the right thing to do.
Men should be putting in the work of self development and improvement to be worthy of relationship rooted in real love. Women need to be selective in whom they engage in a relationship with and get in the mindset of choosing the best man that will be tasked with loving them. Both women and men must do what’s necessary to cultivate balance in their prospective relationships.
